Are you a parent struggling with the pain of estrangement from your adult child? We are parents that are struggling with the pain of estrangement from our adult daughter. The journey of healing from estrangement can be arduous and complex, but there is a path towards recovery that incorporates something you may have overlooked—doing what you love. In this blog post, we delve into the healing power of embracing your passions and interests as a way to navigate the challenging terrain of estrangement recovery.
Understanding the Pain of Estrangement
Estrangement from a child can evoke a wide range of emotions, from deep sorrow and anger to confusion and guilt. The sense of loss and longing can be overwhelming, leaving parents grappling with a mix of emotions that are difficult to process. It's essential to acknowledge and validate these feelings as a crucial step towards healing.
The Healing Power of Doing What You Love
One often underutilized tool in the process of estrangement recovery is engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Whether it's rediscovering an old hobby, exploring a new passion, or immersing yourself in creative pursuits, doing what you love can act as a healing balm for the soul. For me, singing is a balm for my soul, and since our children are grown and it is just Nelson and I in our home, (along with our dogs), I can use this time to pursue my singing career in a way that I was not free to do before. If you have an empty nest, and are going through estrangement with an adult child, you can use this time to pursue an unfulfilled dream.
Benefits of Pursuing Your Passions
Coping Mechanism: Engaging in activities you love serves as a healthy coping mechanism, helping you manage stress and anxiety associated with estrangement.
Sense of Purpose: Pursuing your passions gives you a sense of purpose and fulfillment outside of the estranged relationship, fostering personal growth and self-discovery.
Emotional Outlet: Creative expression through art, music, writing, or other hobbies can serve as a powerful emotional outlet, allowing you to channel your feelings in a constructive way.
Unleashing Creativity in the Face of Adversity
Creativity knows no bounds and has the remarkable ability to flourish even in the midst of adversity. Whether it's painting, gardening, cooking, or dancing, immersing yourself in creative endeavors can spark inner healing and renewal. Volunteering your time with an organization can help as well. Researching and searching for something you love, that has nothing to do with your estranged adult child can help in discovering your sense of self, and help you create the life you want outside of being a parent.
Embracing Your Creativity
Art Therapy: Expressing your emotions through art can be a therapeutic way to release pent-up feelings and gain insights into your inner world.
Writing as Catharsis: Keeping a journal, writing poetry, or engaging in storytelling can provide an outlet for processing complex emotions and experiences.
Exploring New Horizons: Trying new creative outlets can open up new pathways for healing and self-discovery, offering fresh perspectives on your journey towards estrangement recovery.
Giving Yourself the Gift of You
We were all created by God with gifts that only we can do. There is no one else on this earth like you and there never will be again. I am the only person that can sing the way I sing and do what I can with my voice. It is up to me to work on that and keep learning and discovering more avenues in which to us that gift. The gift I am giving myself is the dedicated and committed time and effort to learn the music, learn the languages, workout, get into shape, love the sound of my voice, and join the community of singers in which I am a part. Surrounding myself with like-minded people is very healing and helpful. If not now, when? There will never be a better time for me. I can do nothing about the decisions my estranged adult child makes. I can do something about the decisions I make and go after the dream I have had since childhood. It is the healthiest and best gift I can give myself. You can do the same for yourself.
Embracing the Journey of Healing
In the midst of estrangement, it's easy to lose sight of yourself amidst the pain and heartache. However, by embracing what you love, whether it's a long-lost hobby, a newfound passion, or a creative pursuit, you can embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery that transcends the confines of estrangement. Remember, healing is a gradual process, and every step you take towards doing what you love is a step towards reclaiming your joy and resilience.
So, as you navigate the path of estrangement recovery, remember to infuse your journey with the healing power of your passions and interests. Embrace creativity, nurture your soul, and let what you love guide you towards a place of healing and wholeness.
Let your passions be the compass that leads you back to yourself.
Don't forget that you are a person that is worthy of love and joy. You are unique, and you are enough. God loves you and we do too, be blessed.
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